Why it is important to have boundaries in your life
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines boundaries as something that indicates or fixes a limit or extent. Brene Brown, research professor, lecturer and author defines boundaries as what is ok and what is not ok.
Boundaries set limits. The importance of having boundaries in your life is to protect you from physical and emotional harm.
When we look at our lives we can find ourselves in relationships where boundaries are need in order to protect ourselves. Without having boundaries we are at the mercy of others and that leads to us giving our power away to those people.
Let’s just be clear that it is very hard to set boundaries with those we are in relationship with. If you find you are a people pleaser, setting boundaries can be one of the hardest things you do. But it is really much harder to live your life with having people walk all over you.
We are not good at setting boundaries because we care about what people think about us and we don’t want to disappoint anyone and we want everyone to like us. Deep thought: Not everyone will like us.
It was very hard for me to set limits and put boundaries in place. No one ever told me this was important for me to have in my life. I had no idea I could say no to someone without feeling guilty about it.
“The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who were benefiting from you having none.” – Unknown
As I continue to do the “real work” in my life, I find that boundaries make things easier instead of harder. Yes, it’s hard to put boundaries in place you can be sure that those people you are setting boundaries up for will push and push and push hoping you don’t hold strong.
Brene Brown uses the acronym: BIG, which stands for, B – BOUNDARIES that have to be put in place, I – for me to stay in INTEGRETY, G – and make the most GENEROUS assumptions about you.
Boundaries are the key to self love and the key to treating others with loving kindness. When you have set your boundaries or limits about what you can and cannot do, you are doing others a service by stating what you need. That is where the loving kindness comes in.
When you say NO, you are saying YES to things that fill you up and are important to you. This will have you experiencing less conflict in your relationships.
I work with women who are having a difficult time in boundary setting. If this is you, please do not let this continue. I can lead you to setting boundaries that will make your life easy. Let’s live a life of ease please.
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